Well, not all you need, but love and encouragement are the foundation of a child’s feelings of self-worth. Knowing he is loved unconditionally is the first step in helping him navigate the road to independence and self-governance. “Every child has a primary language of love, a way in which he or she understands a parent’s love,” reads the introduction of The 5 Love Languages of Children by Gary D. Chapman and Ross.
2. Be Present
Spending meaningful time with your child in today’s busy world is an important challenge. But no matter how hectic your life is, there are some ways to make sure you stay connected.
3. Set rules
Allow your children some input into house rules about chores, bedtimes, TV and computer use. Kids need a sense of self-control, and setting limits helps them learn how.
4. Be consistent
Don’t get drawn into a power struggle and don’t negotiate. Remember, though, this isn’t a power trip: it’s about guidance. You can always put the toys away yourself if it comes to that. What’s important is that the toys have been put away; no pouting or whining will change that.
5. Resolve conflicts
Be aware of tensions between you and your children. Don’t let anger and resentment build. Develop ground rules for handling conflict. Make sure everyone knows them. Then address issues as they come up.
6. Teach responsibility
Give children opportunities to make a contribution to the household. Encourage problem-solving and independent thinking by allowing them to experience the results of their actions or failures to act.
7. Model good behavior
Your children watch you all the time: your tone of voice, your actions, your attitudes. If you’re the type to fly off the handle, then how can you preach anger management? The Golden Rule isn’t out of fashion yet!
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