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What Makes a Healthy and Happy Relationship? The Million Dollar Question

What’s the key to a successful relationship? What’s the secret?

Making sure your relationship goes the distance means remembering to do the simple everyday things for each other, while not being afraid to address the big issues important to both of you. Here are some tips for a successful relationship.

Focus on Each Other. Consistent quality together time can help you maintain and strengthen your relationship. Give each other at least half an hour a night, and at least one day a month when you spend time exclusively as a couple.

Build Trust. Look for ways to make sure your partner feels secure in the relationship. Compromise and a lot of give and take from both of you show the other how much you value each other.

Accept with Love. The little quirks and habits that initially first attracted you to your partner can turn into nasty annoying habits. Avoid trying to make over your partner. After all you fell in love with them just the way they were.

Develop a Financial Plan. Money is one of the top conflicts between most couples. Address your finances, work out a budget and set goals together so you stay on the same page.

Disagree with Integrity. Learn to argue well. Never say something to your partner that you wouldn’t want to hear said back. Try to take the high road and stay there. Take a time out if the heat’s too high. Just remember, the one good thing about arguing, is the making up afterwards. Keep your disagreements honorable ensure you don’t build up resentments.

Talk. Talk. Talk some more. Communication is vital to all healthy relationships. Listen to your partner and avoid blame and judgment. Make sure you understand their point of view. Don’t assume your partner can read your mind. Remember just talking things over can help you to both have a deeper understanding of each other.

Maintain a Strong Physical & Emotional Connection. Sort out your sex life. If it seems to be fading, don’t just accept it. Discuss it, let your partner know how you feel and that you miss the intimacy.

Support both the couple and the individual. Balance your dependence and independence. Let your partner know much you need them, but avoid being overly dependent or clingy. That can make your partner feel trapped. Make sure your partner knows that when you do go out with friends or participate in an activity, it does not reflect on your commitment to him or her. In fact, it may give more things to talk about.

Use Counseling as an Opportunity to Grow. Going to counseling is not a sign of a failed relationship. Therapy can save a bad relationship and can turn an average relationship into an excellent one. Seeking therapy shows you are both committed to improve your bond.

Whether you’re dating or married, relationships are dynamic and demanding. It takes 110% commitment from both of you. However, you can have a healthy and long-lasting relationship and many couples have proven just that. Not everything is always going to be perfect but if you both choose to make it work then it can. And remember it’s the little things that are the proof that you want to make the relationship work.

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