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Show Unconditional Love and Unconditional Respect Toward Your Partner

Show Unconditional Love and Unconditional Respect Toward Your Partner

Show Unconditional Love and Unconditional Respect Toward Your Partner

Advice that Goes All the Way Back to the Bible, Buddhist philosophy, the Torah, Islamic texts and ancient Chinese verses.

Let’s begin with how to disagree and argue fairly. Start feeling statements with the word “I “ rather than “you,” and “addressing the problem and not the person”. This communication technique helps to are all to avoid the negative impact of anger and defensiveness, outwardly showing your partner that you care about them through words of kindness and appreciation.

Many spiritually-based resources focus on demonstration and communication of unconditional love. Unconditional love doesn’t mean placing oneself in harm’s way (physically, emotionally, or psychologically). It also doesn’t mean that we enable partners who are engaged in addiction, abuse, or chronic infidelity.

Recognizing Different Communication and Listening Styles

In 2004, Pastor Emerson Eggerichs published the book Love and Respect which speaks to the difference in male and female communication styles somewhat reminiscent of the Men are From Mars, Women Are From Venus theories in John Gray’s bestseller. Pastor Eggerichs goes a step further citing Ephesians 5:33 that unconditional love is vital for women and unconditional respect is essential for men in building long lasting, happy marriages. This advice does not preclude the need that women have to feel respected or that men have to feel loved. It means that the crazy cycle of misunderstanding and miscommunication between husbands and wives occurs at a basic level when women feel unloved and when men feel disrespected. The book teaches that men and women think and interpret what they hear it differently. Many don’t realize how words and actions are received or that they are doing damage because it is not intentional.

Another interesting source of helpful material is the movie Fireproof which stars Kirk Cameron in the role of a husband struggling with what seems like the inevitable end of his marriage. In the movie, Kirk Cameron’s father recommends that he utilize the book The Love Dare to reconnect with his wife, who is also unhappy and moving toward divorce as the solution. It is a 40-day challenge to express love toward your spouse by practicing unconditional love. It focuses on attentiveness, rediscovery, and acts of loving kindness while keeping in mind that marriage is as much about being the right person as it is about finding the right person.

Looking for Communication Connections

In our society, in which we discard and replace things so easily, the unfortunate truth is that marriage is easily categorised as replaceable. Sometimes this occurs out of sheer frustration and helplessness because couples can’t figure out how to effectively change. Although the resources listed here resources are geared toward Christians, they are useful to all. They rea guides on how to refocus ourselves on what we can do to show those we love how much we value, respect, and appreciate them.

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