By Deirdre Hally Shaffer, MSW, LCSW By the time divorce occurs, the emotional wounds can seem impossible to heal. Whether the offenses were intentional or not, it’s important to start with how the injured party feels. If you feel immobilized … Read More
School Daze Part Three: What to Tell the Teacher School Daze: A Four-Part series addressing the challenges kids face going back to school after their parents separate or divorce. Navigating the emotional upheavals and adjustments of divorce may be challenging … Read More
School Daze: A Four-Part series addressing the challenges kids face going back to school after their parents separate or divorce. As if heading back to school after your separation or divorce isn’t hard enough on your child, changing residences and/or … Read More
A child’s perspective on going back to school after a divorce – Part One Although the ratios are different depending on the child, the first day of school usually holds a mix of excitement and dread. Your child will be … Read More
Get Up Off the Mat Surviving divorce can lead to “poor me” moments. Those times that the car won’t start, the kids won’t stop, and your patience goes south. Or when the basement floods, the power goes out and you … Read More
Deadhead Negative Emotions After Divorce to Build A Better Life Gardeners know that plants need daily care. Without water, sun and pruning, flowers won’t reach their full blossoming potential and vegetable plants won’t yield a healthy, abundant harvest. “Deadheading is … Read More
Although they may sound as if they are the same thing, there’s a difference between getting over a divorce and getting on with your life. The first depends on so many intangibles, the second on practicalities over which you have … Read More
According to the bazillion profiles on dating sites, nearly everyone likes romantic dinners and walks on the beach. And that’s fine and customary for a typical ‘getting to know you’ date. But how would you like to spend a date … Read More
Re-establishing Stability and Security for Your Children by Deirdre Hally Shaffer, MSW, LCSW Family systems are wrenched apart during divorce, affecting all family members including all children regardless of their age. Even when the divorce, brings relief and peace to … Read More
by Deirdre Hally Shaffer, LCSW “Codependent relationships are a type of dysfunctional helping relationship where one person supports or enables another person’s addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement. Among the core characteristics of codependency, the most common theme … Read More
